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Be forewarned, depending on your viewpoint, I didn’t choose a pleasant topic for this
month.
This post is for anyone mourning the loss of a loved one.
See,
the handsome guy you see above is none other than my Daddy, my Ace, my Playa from the Himalayas, my first love, my Father.
He suddenly passed away earlier in the year due to health issues and I miss him
dearly. His death changed my entire view
of life. I have a refined take on why we as people exist and what we are
supposed to do while we are here on Earth. I bask in moments of happiness. I
fancy over natures gifts a little longer. And ironically, I love a little
harder.
If
it seems like I’m being positive patty… I am.
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I
began this post a couple of months before releasing so it’s unclear as to where
I will be in my process…But this one downfall has been the toughest part about my dads passing.
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That
downfall is called Grief.
Grief is a mean lil twitch. Grief
is rude. Grief will interrupt conversations, meetings, social outings,
anything. You think it, it’ll try to ruin it.
In anticipation of my first holiday without my
dad, I’m thinking that Grief will end up being the elephant in my room of holiday
cheer.
Even
with Grief
not being invited to the family gathering I’m preparing myself because Grief just may show up. And if it
does I’ll just have to deal with it because all in all Grief is actually healthy.
It
doesn’t feel good when you’re having a conversation with Grief but it actually helps you process the loss of the
loved one. I could spit a bunch of psychological terms to back me up… but I won’t. Just trust me.
Also
trust that when Grief shows up as the elephant in your room, you should have a brief chit chat with it. Meditate on
the convo. Get help processing if you need to (and even if you think you
don’t). Grieving is a time of reflection but it’s also a time where loved ones
should definitely be utilized.
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I
recently attended a seminar on Love and its relation to the multitude of
religious practices. A panel member representing the Buddhist practice said
(loosely translated) that “most of our disappointment’s in life stem from the
concept of desire.” When it comes to bereavement, our desire was to have our
loved one here with us, maybe for eternity, but our reality is that it won’t
always be this way. There’s a middle ground of sorts that we must deal with.
The ground of living without their physical presence and leaning on their
spirit.
In
closing, anything by Frankie Beverly and Maze is my dads love letter to me. It
helps me deal with my middle ground… 3 minutes of their music and everything is
alright in my world. If you’re grieving for someone this holiday season, I hope
that this can lift your spirits. Really
listen…
Enjoy
your family this holiday season. Spend time not money. Love harder.
Be
Blessed.
Nika~Nu
Encouraging
orgs that I swear by…
